Nature VS Nurture: How Your Childhood Upbringing Influences Your Present?
Have you ever heard of the nature vs. nurture debate?
If not, the nature vs. nurture debate is the oldest debate in the world of psychology between genetics and the environment. While nature argues that genetics shapes us into who we are today, nurture argues that our environment plays the biggest role in this.
However, there are those who believe that both have an equal influence on our present.
This article covers three external factors to look out for during your child’s childhood years: The physical environment, financial stability, and family bonding & quality time.
Childhood is the years where children learn and pick up on a lot of things that they observe. They tend to imitate their parents actions and words, which is why parents need to be cautious about what they say or how they act when their kids reach two years old. Observational learning, a theory by psychologist Albert Bandura, describes the process of how children learn by watching others and then later imitating what they’ve seen or heard.
A child’s upbringing should be peaceful and loving. A household that is chaotic and unsettling influences a child’s behaviour and interactions with others in the future, as well as their learning abilities. A peaceful environment enhances their focus on their skills and interests, allowing for a better performance at school.
Growing up in a home with financial stability is growing up in a home that is comfortable and de-stressed. Parents are also able to provide their children with security for their future, so that they can embark on their further educational journey as soon as they graduate from high school.
Parents who are struggling to make ends meet are stressed and overworked, which can play a role in the interaction and attention they give their kids. Children begin to notice the tension and witness disagreements about money between their parents, and this can play a role on them emotionally as they too begin to feel the worry and frustration with their parents. Witnessing these hardships as a child can make them emotionally withdrawn when interacting with other children, and may even affect them academically.
Family Bonding & Quality Time
During childhood, children crave attention from you as their parents. Without your undivided attention, this influences the way they interact and behave towards their future relationships and friendships. A child that is brought up in a household where family bonding and quality time is a priority will have these same qualities in their own relationships and family one day. A child that is brought up in the opposite kind of family, where love and attention was not given when it was needed, displays insecurities and will seek the kind of attention they desired from their parents in their partner.
The environment and circumstances children grow up in, influences their future decisions and their perceptions on life. When they’ve reached adolescents and adulthood, some allow their unsettling childhood experiences to influence their present in a negative way, while others see these kinds of experiences as motivation to do better in their own life.
There’s a saying that goes: “When life gives you lemons, make lemonade”. We encourage you to turn the bitter moments into something sweet, for there’s a lot we can learn from them.