Let Go of Your Anger
There’s a quote by a man named Leo Buscaglia that reads “Don’t hold to anger, hurt or pain. They steal your energy and keep you from love”, and I couldn’t agree more with this.
There are many things that make us, as humans, burst out in anger; whether it’s betrayal, failure, or something as simple as messing hot coffee on your white clothes on your way to work.
But what many people don’t realize, is that there is power in anger. It has the power to affect your day, how you treat people, how you perform in your daily tasks, and just like the quote reads, it steals your energy and keeps you from love. It’s powerful enough to allow you to build up resentment towards those who have caused you pain or anger. This resentment is what causes bitterness and keeps you from experiencing true freedom and joy.
Allowing anger to build up and not finding a way to release it has also been linked to an increase in stress and blood pressure, which could potentially lead to a stroke.
Thankfully, there are techniques we can use in our daily routines that can help us control the affect this unpleasant mood has on us.
Know what triggers you Knowing what triggers your anger and frustrations can help in learning how to control them. For some, their frustration might come from not being happy about where they are in life right now. When things don’t go according to the plan we’ve set out for our lives, this causes stress and frustration. For this, it’s important to realize that not everything in life goes according to plan. Evaluate your present and count your blessings. Think of what makes you happy about where you are right now. This will help you find control when you feel your frustration about failed life plans building up.
For others, it might be past bad experiences that trigger our anger when something similar happens. Start the process of accepting this past experience and be sure to have the right people around you who will support you in the process and give off positive energy.
Find a technique that relaxes you People find different ways to relax. What works for others might not work for you? While some may find that meditation or doing yoga helps them to relax, others may feel that reading, exercising or listening to soothing music while practicing their hobbies helps them to relax.
Find a technique that you know works for you and include it into your daily routine.
Take some time out
Here, time out means walking away from a conversation that may be leading to a disagreement or argument. Our daily frustrations and anger sometimes stems from negative encounters that we have with people. Words are said that we don’t mean, or things are interpreted the wrong way which leads up to a disagreement or argument.
When you find yourself in these kinds of encounters, realize that it’s in your control. You have the choice of walking away when you feel anger and frustration building up, and simply returning to the matter later when everyone has calmed down. By then, the adrenaline rush has gone down and your thoughts have been gathered enough for you to have a civil conversation that can lead to an agreement or solution.
Learn to forgive, forget and let go of grudges
Holding grudges leads to bitterness. This bitterness gets taken out on the people around you, affecting your relationships you have with your friends, family or romantic partners. It might cause you to have unpleasant encounters with strangers too.
Forgive those who have caused you hurt or anger in the past, it’s the first step to letting go. Once you’ve let go, you’ll begin to feel that sense of freedom which will ultimately make you feel a lot happier.
Anger and past experiences are something we have control over. It’s up to us to forgive, let go, and find the techniques that help us do this.