6 Self-Reflection Techniques for a Better YOU

What is self-reflection?

Self-reflection is the practice of taking time to evaluate your own thoughts, feelings, and behavior. It encourages self-awareness so that you’re able to identify your key areas of improvement and areas of strength. To achieve true self-reflection and -awareness, you need to truly understand your emotions and past behavior, so that you’re able to make better decisions in the future. However, while you do this, it’s also important to not be hard on yourself by judging your past decisions. Remember, you’re on this journey for a better YOU, and to achieve this, you need to forgive yourself.

The first step in this journey is getting yourself a journal and actually taking time out of your day, whether it’s just 10-15 minutes or even an hour, to just reflect. But how does one ‘reflect’?

We’re about to share six simple self-reflection techniques to get your journey started!

Ask yourself reflective and thought-provoking questions

These questions are for a better understanding of who you are, what you want, and what you value. When answering these questions, it’s important to be honest with yourself. Although it might not be easy to admit your flaws or things you’re lacking to yourself, just remember that there’s nobody around to judge your answers. Nobody will read or hear them. It’s just you and yourself.

A few questions to ask yourself are:

● Who am I? Write anything about yourself and how you identify yourself.

● What do I value the most in my life?

● What worries me the most about my future?

● What are my goals? What have I done / What will I do to achieve them?

● Is there anything I’ve started and never finished? / given up on? Why?

● What am I most proud of in my life?

● What would I like to change about myself? How will I go about doing that?

● What’s something that I’d like others to remember about me when I’m no longer around?

Find more reflective questions here.

Write in your journal

Keeping a journal of your thoughts, goals, and feelings is essential in your self-reflection journey. On a daily basis, write down what’s been on your mind, reflect on how your day was, write down what you’re thankful for, about good or bad experiences or choices you’ve made. Your journal can also be used to answer your self-reflective questions.

Set goals for self-improvement

In your journal, write down where you want to be professionally, spiritually, emotionally, and mentally. Set a timeline for these goals and revisit them on due day. For example, if you want to be in a better space emotionally one month from now, revisit a month later and reflect on the steps you took towards that goal and if you’ve achieved it. Don’t beat yourself up if you haven’t achieved it, be proud of how far you've come since you set the goal and keep working on it!

Practice gratitude

This is such an important technique to acknowledge and be thankful for all the good in your life. In your journal, write down everything and everyone you’re thankful for, what you’re proud of, a time in your life when things were going wrong and how far you’ve come since then. Another great way to practice gratitude is being kind to others.

This technique helps in calming your anxiety and boosting your overall happiness!

Get into the right headspace

Clear your mind! To truly focus and reflect on yourself, you need to clear your mind from the clutter, negativity, and any distractions.

This can be done by getting some fresh air: Go for walks in the park, visit the beach, meditate, practice yoga, or even exercise.

Avoid criticizing yourself (IMPORTANT!)

Reflecting on yourself and past actions can easily lead to beating yourself up for what you’ve done. It’s important to remember that the journey of self-reflection is all about learning more about yourself and finding ways to improve. It’s about forgiving yourself and others, and being proud of where you are in life.

Now that we've run through six simple techniques, here are seven self-reflection affirmations to repeat to yourself during your journey!

I give myself permission to be quiet and reflect on my many blessings.

I embrace my past and am thankful for the lessons I have learned.

My past does not dictate my future.

I am proud of myself today and always!

I forgive myself for my mistakes and I forgive others for their mistakes.

I remember with gratitude. I will practice more gratitude.

I approve of myself.